Guest post by Eleanor Hadley.
One thing I know for sure – our bodies are designed for pleasure.
But when it comes to sexual pleasure, we can tend to get stuck in our ways, repeating what we know works – or worse – assuming that our body simply isn’t capable of deep pleasure. Now, there’s nothing wrong with your go-to sex moves. But, like any habit we’ve formed over a significant period of time, often we can end up on autopilot and sometimes we get to the end with little to no recollection of the journey we took to get there. If you tend to race to the finish line, I invite you to take some time to explore. You may just discover new sensations, deeper pleasure and, yes, more powerful orgasms.
Sex, at its core, is about sensation. Great sex, however, is about exploring the full spectrum of sensations – the nuanced, subtle and unexpected. Utilising sex toys in solo and partnered sex to enhance your exploration can be a incredible way to tap in to new types of sensations you didn’t even know existed.
There are probably as many sex toys on the market as there are sensations to discover in the body, so when it comes to choosing a sex toy to trial I suggest choosing something super versatile. Xinghaoya has many amazing choices.
The Double Entendre by Frenchie is the ultimate multi-tasker. Suitable for all genders, perfect for both internal and external stimulation, solo and partnered sex.
With any new pleasure tool, you might be tempted to go straight for the goods. But for many of us – particularly women and vulva-owners – we need plenty of time to build our arousal before stimulating our vulva, clitoris or any type of penetration. Using vibrators on other parts of the body besides the genitals can feel amazing and allow the body a chance to relax. Plus, you can explore other erogenous zones such as the nipples – which light up the same pleasurable part of the brain as the clitoris does. Try holding the tip of the vibe over the nipples for a subtle teasing sensation.
Vibrators tend to shine the most when it comes to clitoral stimulation – try testing out various speed patterns and experimenting with different levels of pressure on the clit. From barely there to pressing down firmly, you can find your perfect sweet spot. Speaking of your sweet spot – while the clitoris is the star of the show, be sure not to ignore the rest of your vulva. Use your vibe to massage the whole vulva, the inner and outer lips and the entrance of the vagina – you might just find more spots that feel just as sweet.
But – external play isn’t limited to the vulva. There are a lot of sensations to explore on the penis too. Try holding the end of your vibe to the tip of the penis, or bend the flexible body of the Double Entendre to curve around the shaft almost like a cock ring. From here you can stroke and massage up and down the shaft with the vibe, creating a unique sensation you may not have felt before.
The great thing about a slim, long design like the Double Entendre is that you can use it to discover lots of internal pleasure zones. Rather than simply using your dildo or pleasure wand to thrust in and out – get curious and try massaging the internal walls of your vagina. We have lots of spots (like the g-spot, a-spot, k-spot and c-spot) that all feel very different and have huge pleasure potential when stimulated. Experiment with applying pressure in small circular motions inside your vaginal canal, touching all sides and tuning in to the different sensations in each position. This is a practice known as yoni massage and can be a wonderful way to cultivate more connection to yourself and reawaken pleasure zones. Taking it a step further, using the long handle to reach the very end of your vagina to your cervix is another powerful way to experience deeper orgasmic potential. The cervix tends to feel quite sensitive if you haven’t stimulated it much, but after intentional massage of the area, it can lead to orgasms that will take you out of this world thanks to the vagus nerve that connects the cervix to the brain.
While there are a lot of spots to discover internally, the majority of us with vulvas still require external clitoral stimulation to reach the big O. Enter: blended orgasms.
Blended orgasms refer to orgasms that result in the stimulation of two or more erogenous zones. The go-to blended orgasm is the dual stimulation of the clitoris and the g-spot. Essentially the g-spot is the ‘behind the scenes’ of the clitoral network and is more of a zone than one specific button. But, when simultaneously stimulated – it can result is powerful orgasms that will have you melting in utter bliss. Trying to arouse both the clit and the g-spot at the same time – on yourself or your lover – can sometimes feel like the brainteaser of rubbing your belly and patting your head at the same time, so it can be helpful to get some assistance with this one. Curved c-shape sex toys that offer the ability to hit both spots at the same time are a god send. Or, if you’re using it with a partner, you might like to try curving the Double Entendre to create a ‘hook’ to stimulate the g-spot by rocking it in and out while going down on them and focusing on the clit. A guaranteed winner.
Blended orgasms and vibes go hand in hand when it comes to partnered sex. With its flat, squared off design, the Double Entendre is perfect to place between you and your partner to get that clitoral sensation during penetration. Or, take it to the back and try double penetration with the Double Entendre safely curved for anal play. With one of the densest concentrations of nerve endings in the human body, the anus is highly sensitive and thus has huge pleasure potential for people of all genders. Remember to use plenty of high quality lube (like Frenchie’s Oh La La Love Lube) and use only toys that have a flared base or can be curved to ensure safe removal.
Every single body is unique and with a curious mind, you’ll discover a multitude of sensations in yours.
Our bodies truly are designed for pleasure. All you need to do is grab your favourite sex toy and get exploring. Enhanced pleasure and elevated orgasms await.
