Have you ever heard of the phrase: “You can’t draw water from an empty well”?
At its essence, this popular saying simply means you can’t give to others until you have received the emotional, physical and mental support you need yourself. Thus, if your well is empty, you can’t draw water.
If you find that you’re low on support, consider talking with a licensed mental health professional at MyTherapist. For many people, fulfilling friendships and spending quality time with their close friends is one way people fill their own wells and rejuvenate their energy.
As we emerge on the other side of the globally devastating COVID-19 pandemic, we are eagerly anticipating more face-to-face time with our friends. Throughout the course of this pandemic, we have isolated ourselves from friendships and connection to stay safe. We’ve furloughed casual in-person meet ups seeking advice about life’s latest situations; we’ve skipped loud and raucous parties with live music.
While you may think of your friends as a fun outlet – and they are! – have you ever stopped to realize just how important your friendships are to your mental health? Over the last year, you’ve probably realized just how important they are to your mental health.
Nearly 20 percent of Australians experience some form of mental health struggles in any given year, according to recent reports. But, seeking solace in your friendships can absolutely help you improve your mental health.
Why are friendships important?
Well – to Australians, friendships are incredibly important to our overall happiness.
In a study published in 2019, almost 50 percent of respondents said they find direct happiness from their friendships, which is slightly higher than the global average.
And this report tracks the science – because according to scientists, friendships really do make us happier! Science has shown us that being with our closest friends can reduce our stress levels, while giving us a sense of belonging and meaning.
How do friendships help mental health?
As the COVID-19 pandemic has shown many of us, loneliness negatively impacts our lives in many ways and it can manifest itself in many different ways and it’s more serious than you may realise.
Loneliness can be an underlying factor in medical diagnoses like high blood pressure and it can also affect sleep, cause headaches and weaken your immune system.
As humans, we simply crave the connection of other humans. We depend on meaningful connections and the companionship of other people. Recent studies have even shown that people who enjoy the benefits of close friendships and relationships can lead to lower rates of depression or anxiety.
Your friends are more than just the people you call when you’re looking to grab a bite to eat or a drink after work.
Your friends are a true lifeline and benefit to your life in more ways than you may know.
How can you create stronger friendships?
Now that you know how important meaningful friendships are to your mental health, how can you create and sustain strong, deep friendships with others? In today’s tech-first world, it can be easier than ever to keep in touch with your friends. A few tips for you to keep in mind include:
- Think quality over quantity. This isn’t a popularity contest – you’re looking for friends who are honest, kind and respectful.
- Reach out and commit to plans. As we begin to look to a post-COVID-19 world again, reach out to your friends and commit to meeting up soon.
- Talk more; gossip less. Maybe talk about your work, your goals, or other aspirations for your life. Avoid the temptation to talk negatively about others.
- Keep in touch! Relationships are hard work on both sides. Remember to reach out often and keep in touch.
