Some people feel unable to perceive the suffering of others because they have suffered emotional injuries of their own from which they continue to suffer greatly. These trauma caused by abuse or abandonment have left wounds and scars that are never truly healed. Sometimes this pain also turns into aggression. Unhealed emotional injuries can lead to feelings such as guilt trip, bitterness, anger and deep vulnerability. If people have been subjected to abuse and mistreatment, or have been neglected and abandoned, then this phenomenon can get out of control. The lingering marks of these traumatic experiences and the inability to heal these wounds often lead these people to project their deep pain onto others. Eventually, this can lead them to develop maladaptive behaviors. Everyone deals with painful experiences differently. Some people work better than others. But some people do this in the worst possible way: through aggression. Why does this happen?
In some cases, different influencing factors come together. One of these is the severity of the trauma suffered. In addition, it can be very difficult for people who do not have the necessary social skills. Or a supportive environment to deal with these experiences appropriately. Biological and genetic factors also play a role. The most important influencing factor, however, is a person’s personality. For example, we know that reactive narcissistic people use their own pain as a weapon against other people. Their identity as victims and the severity of any psychological issues can create further deep rooted pain. Oftentimes, psychological injury needs help.
This often happens without them noticing or intending to do so. They become people who fail to control their need for retaliation. Therefore, they project their anger and anger onto other people in different ways. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is voluntary. ” -Buddha
When unhealed emotional injuries from traumatic experiences turn into anger
The concept of the “victim” as such is controversial. Not everyone processes a traumatic experience in the same way. Some people, thanks to their psychological resources or their supportive environment, can cope well with dramatic events in their life. They can also process them appropriately. These people break out of the victim role relatively quickly and get on with their lives. In contrast, there are also people who have carried these experiences and the emotional injuries that go with them around with them for practically their entire lives. This then has further negative consequences. An example of these effects is post-traumatic stress disorder.
Today the most powerful trauma treatment method is undoubtedly trauma-centered cognitive behavioral therapy. There is also another form of therapy, acceptance and attachment therapy (Hayes, Strosahl, Wilson, 1999, 2013). This therapy is a third generation cognitive behavior therapy. Its aim is to reduce anxiety and fear in the patient so that he can better deal with stressful and threatening situations. But it is important to remember that no matter what you are going through, you are never, ever alone. There is always help out there that will bring you a lot of assistance.
