3 Science-Backed Ways to Increase Intimacy with Your Partner

It is so easy to forget about the importance of sex in a relationship, due to various unavoidable factors such as work, kids, stress and, more often than not, boredom. Without the physical intimacy keeping the bond between a couple strong, affairs, separation, divorce, and general dissatisfaction are eventually going to tear them apart at some point or other. To avoid that from ever happening between you and your significant other, here are three methods to keep the flame alive through the years that are actually backed up by science.

Don’t Ignore the Element of Surprise in Seduction

The element of surprise has always been a strong determining factor for winning battles, but did you know that there is scientific evidence to suggest that the element of surprise can actually make your partner feel more attracted to you?

It has been reported by couples multiple times that a toy for men can improve sex significantly and especially when it comes as a surprise from his partner. Surprise is a crucial part of seduction, which is why people are so interested in being physically intimate when they start dating each other for the first time. As the years go on, that excitement dies down because there’s no element of surprise left in the relationship.

While familiarity is both inevitable and unfortunately a reason for broken relationships as well, turn it all around by trying different things and not telling your partner about it in advance! They will expect something is coming, but the suspense of not knowing what the next sex toy or roleplay game might be will keep them excited for all the right reasons.

Help Your Partner Bust Stress

Stress is that one universal cause for concern that leads to more stress when you come to know what it can do to you! Find any disease from depression to diabetes and you will see stress being one of the major reasons responsible for either causing the disease or aggravating it, and unfortunately, sex drive is not exempt from the all-encompassing effects of stress either.

One cannot expect their partner to be excited about intimacy when he/she is stressed out, as low libido is a primal reaction to stress for both men and women. Help your partner bust stress with the following few scientifically proven methods.

• Learn a massage technique that can relax the tightened muscles and nerves
• Teach him/her breathing techniques to relax
• Create a sensual and relaxing environment in the bedroom with scented candles and mood lighting
• Surprise and pamper your partner with something that he/she is fond of
• Talk with him/her about what is causing the stress; just talking may relieve more stress than people expect
• Encourage him/her to spend some time with friends and family

Experiment in Bed and Outside It

We already mentioned how surprises can instantly boost the libido of men and women, and experimentation is actually a continuation of that point more than anything else.

Experiment in bed with new positions, sex toys, roleplaying, etc., but do not let it end there. Take her to a completely new and unexpected place on your next date night, or maybe cook for her at home for a change.  The idea is to keep experimenting every now and then to keep excitement and intimacy alive in the relationship, disregarding the years spent with each other.

Aside from what we have just discussed, communication is another key aspect to staying close to your partner. The more you communicate, the better your chances of the relationship surviving through the inevitable ups and downs. The mind and body must both be tended to because unlike a one-night stand, a relationship is about making love to both the body and the mind of your partner.